The Three Phases of Falling in Love

The Three Phases of Falling in Love

If your relationship is quite new and you are really into each other, did you know that there are three phases to falling in love and at each stage hormones are involved? This is according to the BBC’s the Science of love.

The three stages include –

Stage 1 is Lust. This is driven by the sex hormones testosterone and oestrogen. Both men and women have testosterone, this is the hormone guaranteed to get you out and looking to fall in lust.

Stage 2 is Attraction, This is the “I am in love” and it feels like you have been struck by lightning, this is the phase where you cannot think of anything or anyone else! It is according to” Helen Fisher down to a group of neurotransmitters called monoamines, which include the following:

Dopamine – Also activated by cocaine and nicotine.

Norepinephrine – Otherwise known as adrenalin. Starts us sweating and gets the heart racing.

Serotonin – One of love’s most important chemicals and one that may actually send us temporarily insane.

Last but not least, Stage 3 is the Attachment stage, this is what takes over after the attraction stage, and Helen states that “People couldn’t possibly stay in the attraction stage forever”. It would be true to say that you would never get anything done. The hormones responsible for this stage are Oxytocin, which is thought to promote bonding, it is released during orgasm. Another important chemical in this stage is Vasopressin, it is something to do with the kidneys! It all sounds a bit too scientific for me, and takes away some of the spontaneity. You wouldn’t be lying on a beach thinking about which hormone you are releasing at any given time, would you?

A week or so in the sun may tell you more about your partner than months of dating at home. A great way to stay relaxed is to learn something new, or do something together that you would rarely do at home. If it’s a beach holiday it’s simple: why not try surfing, sailing or scuba diving. Snorkelling is great fun. Taxing your body or brain takes the emphasis off each other, this will allow you to relax and enjoy the experience. Learning something new is a great way of bonding, therefore releasing some of the hormones mentioned above, maybe it is all about the science!.




The Three Phases of Falling in Love

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